We share our bodies but not our money. Talking about money with our partner is more uncomfortable than talking about sex.
Money is such an emotive topic and frequently the number one reason relationships break down.
- Most of us are able to earn money
- It is the management of that money that determines whether we are financially secure or permanently broke.
- What are those voices in your head telling you about your money?
- Who planted those voices that are taking charge of your financial decisions?
Here are 7 voices telling you why managing money should not be a priority for you:
- There are so many people who are struggling. Share your money.
- Always be of service to others because it is better to give than to receive.
- You grew up in poverty and that is where you belong.
- If you are a woman, your male partner should always earn more than you. Don’t humiliate him. This is how things should be.
- If I have money, I must give it away before someone asks for a loan that I know can’t be repaid. If I give it away I can honestly say I have no money and reduce my feelings of guilt.
- You fear success and/or judgment. If you are successful, friends may not like you and they will accuse you of flaunting your wealth.
- You don’t know how to manage your money because you are too stupid and you are hopeless at maths.
How many of these voices resonate with you?
Are these voices your parents, your siblings, your teachers, your church or your friends?
Take time to listen to these voices and decide which ones you can evict from your mind.
Give yourself permission to change. You may experience anger and grief but gradually you will achieve a sense of liberation as you realise that you don’t have to carry that baggage anymore.