ADDer: someone who has ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder)
My husband Dave Pughe-Parry and I have been married since 2007. Second time around for both of us. He had been married 31 years previously and me for 25 years.
We were both diagnosed late in life with ADHD and it explained so much about our chaotic pasts.
ADDers are loveable but high maintenance.
For the past 20 years, Dave has coached many ADHD adults and their families around the world using the business name Living ADDventure. From 2024, he is providing his services using Dave Pughe-Parry as he has developed the Coaching programmes and Training Courses. Together, we ran ADHD conferences, training courses and workshops for 1000s of teachers and medical professionals around South Africa.
ADHD is a neurological condition that is highly heritable. Four out of 5 children diagnosed with ADHD have at least one parent with the condition - quite possibly undiagnosed.
ADHD manifests in different ways depending on the severity, type and most importantly how you are raised. If one or both of your parents have ADHD (diagnosed or undiagnosed), it is quite likely that your childhood was chaotic and possibly traumatic. Anixiety, depression, codependence, various forms of addiction may manifest as co-occurring conditions with your ADHD.
MONEY is at the heart of most arguments and breakups. If you have a non ADHD partner, they probably are confounded that you are so intelligent but so stupid and incompetent when it comes to managing money.
Unusually, even though I have ADHD, I am good at accounting and have spent more than 35 years working in finance across diverse industries at management level. and also teaching small business owners how to set up and manage their acounts.
I am grateful that I have had so many careers,and impulsively started several businesses as I have made many mistakes and seen the mistakes made by other business owners.
I am passionate about helping other ADDers understand how their ADHD impacts their financial lives and relationships and how they can work towards changing their financial habits and break the cycle.
You can read more about me by clicking on Pat Pughe-Parry